In my other role as a mental health professional, I have seen firsthand how essential emotional development is for a person to truly thrive — whether child or adult. It is not a “nice-to-have.” It is the foundation upon which all other aspects of learning and growth are built.
Many parents already sense this, and research strongly supports it. We know that when a child feels overwhelmed, unsafe, or under stress, their brain shifts into protection mode, often referred to as “fight, flight, or freeze.” In that state, learning and reasoning take a back seat. It is only when a child feels secure and emotionally regulated that their brain is ready for real, meaningful learning. Harvard’s Center on the Developing Child reinforces this. They explain that “Emotional development begins early in life. The ability to regulate one’s own emotions and manage successful interactions with other people is key for later academic performance, mental health, and social relationships”.
In short: there is no cognitive or intellectual development without emotional development.
Yet, despite this clear evidence, many parents still view emotional development as something that simply “happens” as a child grows — something that does not need to be nurtured with the same focus and intention as reading or math skills. They tend to put their energy into helping their children master ABCs and 123s, believing those are the harder, more essential skills.
But that could not be further from the truth. At the appropriate age, with some guidance and practice, most children pick them up fairly easily.
Emotional development is far more complex than simply learning letters or numbers. It takes time, patience, and, most importantly, a consistent, responsive relationship with a caring adult. So, what can a preschool do to support this vital part of a child’s growth?
At Whistle Woods Schoolhouse, we believe that emotional development begins with connection. Our teachers embrace the principle of “connection before education” — tuning into each child’s individual needs, offering comfort when it is needed, and engaging in meaningful “serve and return” interactions. These everyday moments help build healthy brain architecture and lay the foundation for lifelong emotional well-being. We have also created a schoolhouse that feels warm, calm, and free from stress or overstimulation. Gentle, predictable routines help children feel safe and confident, while unhurried time is set aside for eating, resting, learning, free play, and creative expression.
Academics matter. But there is no rush. When the emotional groundwork is solid, the ABCs and 123s come naturally. When it is missing, children may struggle not because they lack the ability, but because they are not emotionally ready.
Emotional intelligence isn’t just important for preschool — it’s a lifelong superpower.